Dave's Writing Pages

Good can imagine Evil,

but Evil cannot imagine Good.

- W.H. Auden

A Certain World

My Mother in Law


Dear Ann Landers

Fictional Mother's Lament (with index)

October 1999



The Sacred Wedding Vow

A Letter Never Sent

Aug 28, 1999



A Man Twice Blessed

Fictional Toast to a Mother-in-Law

October 1999



What Was: What Could Have Been

The Bizarre Response

 June 2000


In Praise of my Mother-in-Law

Honest Words of Praise

June 2000


This Be The Verse

   They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
        They may not mean to, but they do.
     They fill you with the faults they had
        And add some extra, just for you.

     But they were fucked up in their turn
        By fools in old-style hats and coats,
     Who half the time were soppy-stern
        And half at one another's throats.

     Man hands on misery to man.
        It deepens like a coastal shelf.
     Get out as early as you can,
        And don't have any kids yourself.

 --Philip Larkin (1974)


From the Catechism of the Catholic Church

On respect and obedience of children

As long as a child lives at home with his parents, the child should obey his parents in all that they ask of him when it is for his good or that of the family. "Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord."

Children should also obey the reasonable directions of their teachers and all to whom their parents have entrusted them. But if a child is convinced in conscience that it would be morally wong to obey a particular order, he must not do so.

As they grow up, children should continue to respect their parents. They should anticipate their wishes, willingly seek their advice, and accept their just admonitions. Obedience toward parents ceases with the emancipation of the children; not so respect, which is always owed to them. This respect has its roots in the fear of God, one of the gifts of the Holy Spirit.

- The Fourth Commandment


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